NOT ASHAMED TO SIN, JUST ASHAMED TO ASK FORGIVENESS

If we are not ashamed to sin, then how can we seek forgiveness?  Have interpretations and explanations of Scripture only softened and diluted GOD'S WORD to "comfort" and "explain away" our HARDEN HEARTS?  Has any pain and grief in this world ever really made us "contrite" (ground us to powder) to be grateful and thankful  for what JESUS DID ON THE CROSS?  Ecclesiastes 12:14, "GOD will bring every deed into judgement, with every secret thing, whether good or evil".  There is no whimsical analogy of a "Defense Counsel" in a court room getting us Pardoned that can fulfill Scripture.  Only in the reality of JUDGEMENT will our "hardened hearts" be destroyed  and we see the LOVE OF JESUS.  Then "every secret thing" will let us DANCE WITH JESUS for what HE DID ON THE CROSS.